Fourteen months into being a mother and immersed in the business of running a business and chasing after a toddler, I feel far removed from the product researching and buying frenzy that accompanies a first pregnancy... and yet when I stepped into the room filled with vendors, including so many that I know and love, putting the final touches to their displays and getting ready to welcome three hundred pregnant women for big city moms' Biggest Baby Shower it all came back to me. I actually felt a little teary remembering that time filled with anticipation and hopes and dreams and this vast unknown new world stretching ahead filled with mystery. Because no matter how much you read and you research, no matter how much people tell you or you observe second hand, you just don't know what it's going to be like until you go through it.
And until it happens all you can do is wait. And buy stuff!
And oh what a full time job that can be, the researching and buying of stuff. The good news is that there are so many beautiful, stylish AND practical items out there now to choose from. The bad news is that it's utterly overwhelming to figure out what to get. The good news is that oh but pretty, shiny, cute!
And the really good news, that you don't realize until afterwards even though everyone tells you this too, is that it doesn't matter! From a practical point of view, it doesn't matter, because you'll figure it out, and if you don't have the right thing, you'll get it, or someone will get it for you, and most of the stuff you're not going to need after a year anyway.
What matters is the emotional aspect. Get what makes you happy. Get what makes you feel good, and prepared, and confident. Get what makes your heart skip a beat. Get what fills you with excitement and love and anticipation.
Make a beautiful space filled with beautiful things for you and your baby because when you're sleep deprived and sore and wondering how you're going to make it through the day, that space and those things are going to remind you of the excitement and love and anticipation with which you prepared for this and you will feel better. And on the good days you'll just feel even better!
I never attended an event like the Biggest Baby Shower when I was pregnant (I attended yesterday as a photographer) but I definitely recommend it! There's no other way you can see, touch, and feel so many different products, and speak with vendors about them, in such a fun and friendly environment, all the while collecting coupons and entering to win prizes and getting to take home information and goodies (note to attendees - check your gift back for your alethea cheng fitzpatrick photography print credit!) - definitely worth the price of admission and more. And definitely the biggest baby shower I've ever been to!
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Disclosure: I was a photographer and goody bag sponsor for this event.
nyc baby, child and family photographer alethea cheng fitzpatrick is based in brooklyn and specializes in contemporary, natural light portraiture. view her portfolio of babies, children or families or send her an e-mail here!